There's some funny stuff too, like how gay couples end up sharing clothes or having to go to the bathroom together.
You don't want an accidental fart to slip out when you're in the bathroom stall next to your date after all We're becoming more progressive as a society but that doesn't mean that us gays have it totally easy now. I wish! So here are the things that the LGBT people of Reddit shared on the relationship or dating issues they face that straight people generally don't. It will open your eyes to some stuff you may not have previously thought about whatever your sexual orientation. The women I am attracted to are not the women I want to look like.
I would love to be as thin and delicate as the skinniest catwalk model, but while I admire that body aesthetically, I never want to bang those waifs. I want to bang girls with lovely breasts and curving waists and the kind of thighs that could wrap strongly around my head. It's just - weird, that the kind of girl I want to look like, the ideal that I hate myself for falling short of, isn't at all the kind of girl I'm sexually attracted to.
That's not to say that I hate having sex with her, either. Or the True Unidirectional love triangle. Wait a second looking at pictures on the wall y'all are sisters?! If you live in a bigger area, where it's a lil more common, I can see it not being an issue. From getting excited while watching porn together to making obscene noises, here are some of the funniest stories. He's had sex with men and enjoyed it, and has stated several times here that he's not sexually attracted to his wife and doesn't find sex with her erotic.
I'd just like to say we should all accept our bodies the way they are, be healthy instead of striving for some ideal. I can imagine though, that there could be insecurity in LGBT relationships for some people, in terms of comparing yourself to the other. Cis, straight men and women won't have this issue because their bodies are very different to begin with.
Just imagine any time you broke up with someone and later saw them with someone you knew, and add in kinda being into the person they're dating now too as well as still having feelings for them. Or the True Unidirectional love triangle. It's a vortex of suffering.
This is one of those universal things that lesbians and gays complain about, no matter where they're from. Even if you're in a big city, you still probably go to the same few bars with the same crowd or you're all in the same women's soccer league etc. The incestuousness of a small community is an unfortunate part of queer life.
There is a very strong sense of culture in the community, some people take it very seriously. I don't participate, not because I don't agree with it well thats a lie, I think most of it is stupid but more like I just don't feel any connection, but some times I date guys who only hang out with gay people and don't have any straight friends at all who aren't women. This can get kind of "weird". It's kind of the old story of not getting along with your significant other's friends with a strange twist.
I'm personally well into gay culture, but I know people who aren't and they have their own reasons. Perhaps they don't want to fit a stereotype or be constricted to one tribe and that's cool, whatever makes you happy. I think you can do both though, enjoy gay culture and hanging out with other gays, while still doing your own thing and hanging out with whoever you want to. My boyfriend is not completely out, but I love his family.
I know they would accept him, but he is afraid. It is difficult because I love spending time with his family. I don't like being the best friend, though. Another is public outness. I'm very out, but very aware of my surroundings and safety. We are not big guys, we are small and nerdy. Neither of us is muscular or intimidating. I know that we wouldn't be able to defend ourselves in a fight, so I'm always looking over my shoulder before I hold his hand.
You'd think in this day and age that everyone who is gay would just be out.
But unfortunately it's not true, some LGBT people can't come out to their families for fear of rejection. It's sad, but hopefully we can become progressive enough that it becomes easier for those people. It can be really tough to meet someone when you're gay because you have no way of knowing for sure of a man's orientation other than by using intuition.
Unless you go to a gay club, you just can't know for sure. And unfortunately, a lot of men, myself included, don't like the gay bars. Most of the highest quality men I've met have been from dating websites and I'm not ashamed in the least. There's a definite stigma that straight people my age 24 face when dating online--at least in the crowd I run in.
I always have to preface an explanation about how I met someone with how it's the acceptable thing to do with the gays. It's not fair. Straight people have a whole buffet of other straight people in front of them at all times. If a straight male sees an attractive female from across the room, he knows there is at some level a "chance" that the two of them could be together. Obviously he may not have talked to her there, but odds are that basic framework of potential attraction exists.
When a gay man spots another man, unless he relies on stereotypes, he really has no idea if this fundamental potential exists. Odds are against him. So, for him, he must spend a large portion of his time just finding out if that BASIC level of potential attraction required for any romantic relationship is there. Only after that can the other developments start. I think this especially true in more closeted circles like the area I'm from. Obviously in more gay-friendly areas it's easier to figure these things out. You need a good gaydar to work out who is gay or open.
Plus, just because you're gay doesn't mean you only fancy other gay people. That's not easy either. As a girly lesbian, I constantly get overlooked.
If I'm in a gay club, everyone thinks I'm just some straight girl hanging about. I'm not gay enough for some lesbians and I'm forever having to "come out" to people over and over again because it's not obvious.
Which I realise is not always a bad thing. People need to realize that LGBT people come in all shapes and sizes and rainbow varieties. By now it should be obvious, but for some reason it isn't. As a femme lesbian, I have to come out over and over again like this woman.
It gets annoying because you genuinely don't know how people will react, at the very least you don't want them to stick that gay label on you as though it's the most interesting thing about you. You feel safer in a gayborhood, but that is also typically a place where gay bashers will congregate if they get in that mood. Posts that apply to specific groups of people within a race are allowed like this one and this one.
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Also condoms and prep are life savers to these types of men. Though I heard lots of ppl go bare back, and the STD rates are uncertain. Or maybe the pool of people who wanna actually date and be monogamous is small because gay men like to fuck tons of random dudes? And it's not just young men, older men seem like to to prey on younger men in the gay community.
It's why rates of pedophilia are much higher among gays. And a bath house isn't the same thing as a whore house, as a whore house requires payment. I am not st8, so idk if its just an entry fee or pay every one. And I do agree STD rates among gay men is higher, i just said idk what it was uncertain what it was, even more so compared to the str8 rate because there are still gay men in the closeted well into their old age.
Gay men and women dont have that risk, and be more promiscuous, additionally like I said young men like to fuck way more than young women. Whore houses usually have an entrance fee and you pay each hooker. There aren't places where random women have sex with men for free. If we can agree on that, I'm good. Too bad Chasabl kinda died off.